Life lessons

“Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards”

We’ve heard all the quote ‘when one door closes, another one opens’. There are many things that we know rationally, but only by experiencing them, the lessons really stick. If we don’t learn something the first time, life will give us the same lesson over and over again until we understand it. I believe that the secret of life is to recognize and learn the lessons as quickly as possible. Life is a game. Always find the silver lining of the cloud. Even seemingly unrelated things can contain powerful life lessons. I have collected some special examples for you.



While I was having dinner with my friend Tal Gur during a busy conference in Bangkok, a new word popped up in my mind, just like that. We were discussing how creating more space (in your agenda, your mind and the physical world around you) and being more aware, allows [...]


How the book ‘Caribbean’ changed my life


Some books are special. Not only because they are good reads, but because you read them at a special time in your life, or in a special place, or both. Some books really make or mark a change in your life. For me, ‘Caribbean’ is such book. [...]

How the book ‘Caribbean’ changed my life2018-09-11T13:39:11+00:00

How to light your fire without a burnout… Energy management for people with a passion


How can you follow your dreams without ending up in a nightmare? How can let your passion guide you, without the risk of being paralyzed by disappointment? How can you achieve huge results without depleting your reserves? This book is for strong, passionate, driven people, who want to find sustainable ways to keep focusing on their goals without ending in collapse. It is a personal account with sound advice on how to balance your feminine and masculine side. To let go when you need to, yet to persevere when you have to; and to know the difference.

How to light your fire without a burnout… Energy management for people with a passion2018-02-22T13:19:50+00:00

Silent storm


This is going to be a strange contribution to this yearly tradition*. You see – I can’t and really am not allowed to write about the thing that is occupying me most at the moment. My father – whom I am caring for this winter in Miami – is increasingly [...]

Silent storm2018-10-28T08:04:27+00:00

Peyote Whisperer?


When I told my friend Randall Rodrigues about my weird connection with a group of Peyote cacti in Amsterdam, he said: “So you are like a Peyote whisperer?” I laughed it off, but in the days following his remark I explored this strange connection and concluded that – as weird [...]

Peyote Whisperer?2018-10-28T08:04:27+00:00

Connecting the dots tattoo


I never thought I would get a tattoo. And still I do have one now. Got it in Japan, of all places. No regrets! Better even; my tattoo is my daily reminder of a very important decision I made. The idea was born after a Tantra workshop in Thailand. On the last [...]

Connecting the dots tattoo2018-10-28T08:04:28+00:00

How I stole food during the Survivor TV show


And why you should steal, too. Rules are good. They keep our society organized and decent. But sometimes you have to bend, or even break, the rules. When you are really hungry, for example; but that is not what this post is about. It’s about control. Even in circumstances [...]

How I stole food during the Survivor TV show2018-10-28T08:04:28+00:00



Many people feel stressed or even paralyzed because they have too many choices. Lately I have been asked to contribute to seminars, webinars and masterclasses on this topic. I came to the following analysis/exercise. Map your choices on two axis: how much do you enjoy the activity [...]


Watercolor life lessons


I love new perspectives by looking at the world trough the eyes of others. Especially if they are really good at something I know very little about. So when I met watercolor artist Vladimir Marcos Merchensky Arias from Buenos Aires I was eager to learn from him. He is [...]

Watercolor life lessons2018-10-28T08:04:29+00:00

Does the ‘no excuses lady’ also have excuses?


You bet! A bit embarrassed to admit it, but in this video I explain why I delayed publication of the English translation of my first book 'What is your excuse?' for six (6!) years. I hope that my very personal story may help you to recognize your excuses and [...]

Does the ‘no excuses lady’ also have excuses?2018-10-28T08:04:30+00:00