Life lessons

“Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards”

We’ve heard all the quotes ‘when one door closes, another one opens’. There are many things that we know rationally, but only by experiencing them, the lessons really stick. If we don’t learn something the first time, life will give us the same lesson over and over again until we understand it. I believe that the secret of life is to recognize and learn the lessons as quickly as possible. Life is a game. Always find the silver lining of the cloud. Even seemingly unrelated things can contain powerful life lessons. I have collected some special examples for you.

Life lessons from a Tantra experience


Most people think tantra is about sex, but it is a total re-eduction about life. How to get rid of limiting beliefs & old patterns that don’t serve you anymore, how to balance your masculine and feminine energy, how to deal with & process emotions and also, but not primarily, how to heal or revitalize your healthy sexuality.

Life lessons from a Tantra experience2024-03-15T22:26:19+01:00

Inner peace


For a few months now I have had the feeling of enormous peace within me. I almost can not believe it. The unrest that has always been there is gone. I was always in 'survival mode', always alert, busy, and productive. Now it feels more like just BEING and enjoying.

Inner peace2024-02-07T10:38:26+01:00



I had been suffering from drooping eyelids for years. It even got so bad that my eyelashes were pressed down. Yet I had never thought about an eyelift, even though many friends (and friends) told me that they had done so and that it was a 'piece of cake'. However, when I lost a bit of vision in one eye a year ago due to a split retina, I became extra aware of the overhanging eyelids. Maybe an eye lift would give me some vision back? It was worth trying. But I thought it was super scary. Cutting a healthy body is not 'my thing'. Once again friends assured me that it wasn't that big of a deal.


Life lessons from a witch – an MDMA experience


During my writing retreat in Mallorca, I supported a psychologist writing a book about psychedelic-assisted therapy. The down-to-earth way she approached it, immediately caught my attention. I had never been interested in using psychedelics - I am too sensitive to even drink coffee, plus years ago, I had a magical connection with the Peyote cactus without ever ingesting it, so why would I? - but this time I felt a big YES.

Life lessons from a witch – an MDMA experience2024-03-04T16:10:23+01:00

Life lessons from eye problems


Sunday afternoon, out of the blue, I started seeing ‘light flashes’ in my right eye. Every time I moved my eye or head I saw this ‘lightning’; always in the same place, in the periphery of my sight. Instinctively I felt this was not OK. I messaged my doctor friends in Holland and they told me I should go to an eye doctor first thing in the morning. I went to bed at 6PM, trying not to move, not to put any pressure on my head. I was very worried, because even in the dark I saw light flashes.

Life lessons from eye problems2023-05-15T15:05:35+02:00

Conscious Uncoupling


Conscious uncoupling is a new, more conscious way to end your relationship. You go from the ‘story’ level to the helicopter view. For example, not only the reason why the relationship ended but also the beautiful memories and experiences are looked at. The relationship is honored by trying to turn resentment into wisdom and lessons learned. It’s about how to heal, reflect and move on in the kindest and most productive way possible. You can do this with your ex, but if he doesn’t want to cooperate, you can also do it alone.

Conscious Uncoupling2022-09-05T12:52:42+02:00

Are you a digital nomad?


Is your dream to live, work & play around the world? In this test from my Digital Nomads book, you can find out if you have what it takes to be a digital nomad.

Are you a digital nomad?2022-12-29T12:22:12+01:00

Life lessons from my cats


More than 20 years ago, my friend Kristel's cat got kittens. We lived in Curaçao, but I would go back to the Netherlands to take care of my 12 years younger brother Michael R. Jacobs. I had no experience as a 'mother' but wanted to give him (and maybe myself) the most homely experience possible, after all the divorce we'd been through. That's how I got the idea to take the two kittens with me as a surprise.

Life lessons from my cats2022-08-18T17:57:17+02:00

Letter to my younger self


At age 40, Esther Jacobs writes a letter with wise lessons to herself as a teenager. What did you want to know when you were so young? Part of the book by Steven de Jong and Viola Welling.

Letter to my younger self2022-08-29T12:05:34+02:00

Life lessons from ski


Do you focus on what’s immediately in front of you, or do you keep your look on the future, on the horizon, the bigger picture? I had a private ski lesson that taught me some important life lessons.

Life lessons from ski2022-08-18T20:54:10+02:00
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