I’m currently in Miami, where I’m spending ten days with my father, and I finally have time to let the past weeks – and the inspiration of Baby Bathwater island – sink in. Normally there is a lot to be organized here (my father has Alzheimer’s), but this time I decided not to focus on DOING things but to just BE. When I first heard about his diagnosis, I wanted to arrange everything for him: we took a cruise to Indonesia (which was on his bucket list); I arranged everything he wanted to do. With all the planning and arranging, there was hardly any time for just being together. So no trips and no arranging this time; just drinking coffee with my dad, going for walks together, looking at photo albums and letting what unfolds just be. Great conversations, special moments, and enjoying being together. It’s important for him and also a nice break for me after all that traveling (Croatia, Amsterdam, London and Miami in a month) and time to get inspired. Do you take enough time out with the people you love?
As a surprise, I had his signature tattooed on my arm last week, in white ink so it doesn’t stand out too much. The idea is that although his personality is slowly “disappearing” due to the illness, this keeps his energy with me. It seems to have worked out well. I was afraid it would be very emotional to show him the tattoo, but he just started to laugh and said, “Haha, that’s the craziest thing I’ve ever heard! Who would want MY signature on their arm? !?”
Yet he was intrigued and now he always asks me: “So this doesn’t go away, it won’t disappear?” And every time I answer: “No, this will always stay with me; your energy will stay with me forever!” ❤️❤️❤️