When I shared the ‘devil’s dilemma‘ about my eye problems (should I get the surgery or not yet), I got a lot of comments and advice from my followers and friends. I noticed that people deal with such an uncertain situation in roughly three different ways:
- “Do what the doctors say.” If he says: surgery, follow that advice immediately. Don’t risk your health and especially your eyes, trust the experts.
- “Get a second opinion.” Take what the doctor says seriously, but do your own research and get a second opinion, or even a third opinion, before making an informed decision.
- “Feel…” Do your research, ask different experts, including those in the alternative field (what could be the underlying issue or symbolism that demands attention?), and also listen to your body, your gut, and your intuition. What do you feel? Are you afraid? Do you feel like you can wait a little longer? Do you feel a strong yes or no to any of the options? If no one can give an exact indication of the risk of an emergency requiring immediate surgery, how do you estimate the likelihood of that happening?
What I did: I used my network to find two experts in different countries, to get a second and third opinion, without waiting lists. I am exploring the deeper meaning of eye problems and trying to get an idea of my options, the possibilities, the best technologies, and the risks. Since I don’t immediately feel a ‘yes’ to the operation, I have decided to wait and – very carefully – continue my life and travels for a while. So no heavy lifting, no running, jumping, or exercising, minimizing the risk of a sudden movement or blow to my head. I now look for the best ophthalmologist for every place I go, so that if I get a sudden retinal detachment, I can have surgery within 2 days, to avoid the risk of becoming permanently blind in that eye.
A friend wisely said, if it’s a field that gets exponentially better every year, then there’s a good chance better technology/new methods are available if you wait 3 years.
I’m curious: which of the three reactions do you identify most? How would you deal with a challenging health situation?