{"id":52760,"date":"2021-01-13T15:43:17","date_gmt":"2021-01-13T14:43:17","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/estherjacobs.info\/?p=52760"},"modified":"2022-08-18T18:58:48","modified_gmt":"2022-08-18T16:58:48","slug":"do-you-reflect-on-the-lessons-from-your-relationships-inspiration-shot-january-2021","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/estherjacobs.info\/en\/blog\/do-you-reflect-on-the-lessons-from-your-relationships-inspiration-shot-january-2021\/","title":{"rendered":"Do you reflect on the lessons from your relationships? – Inspiration shot January 2021"},"content":{"rendered":"

Do you reflect on the lessons from your relationships?<\/h1>\n

Inspiration shot January 2021<\/h3>\n<\/div>
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\u201cEvery lesson that hasn\u2019t been learned will be repeated\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Relationships are our greatest mirrors. We are presented with the same situations again and again, in different contexts, until we learn our lessons. They are not always easy. How do we make constant learning and growth attractive and perhaps even enjoyable? In recent years I have had quite a bit to ‘chew on’ and gained many new insights. This inspiration shot includes a number of recommendations to listen to, read, and action.<\/p>\n<\/div>

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Did you know that in Dutch the word for \u2018molars\u2019 is the same as the verb \u2018to choose\u2019? That\u2019s why I paid extra attention to a broken tooth that has been bothering me for a while now. What is it trying to tell me? What do I have to choose? Do I get rid of it, the symptom, or can I get to the \u2018root cause\u2019? I don\u2019t want to lose my tooth or my choices. I do want to learn my lessons, but why-oh-why does it have to hurt so much and be so damn hard? My friend and\u00a0voice power coach<\/a>\u00a0Maanwilla advised me to paint the emotions associated with my sore tooth. This is the result. What is your body trying to tell you?<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you don\u2019t listen to your body whisper you will have to listen to it scream\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>

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The power of now<\/h2>\n<\/div>

Eckhart Tolle’s message is simple and powerful:\u00a0\u201cbe in the now\u201d<\/em>. Everything else is not important because it no longer exists, or does not yet exist. His podcasts keep reiterating this profound wisdom in different ways. It makes me feel very calm to listen to it, like,\u00a0\u201cIndeed, what does it all matter. Now is all that matters\u2026\u201d<\/em>\u00a0Eckhart’s crazy German accent makes his\u00a0podcasts<\/a>\u00a0extra fun.<\/p>\n<\/div>

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Relationships as a mirror<\/h2>\n<\/div>

Esther Perel is known for her books on relationships and in particular on cheating, including\u00a0‘The state of affairs’<\/a>\u00a0and\u00a0‘Mating in captivity’<\/a>. Her\u00a0podcast\u00a0“Where should we begin?”<\/em><\/a>\u00a0<\/em>consists of recordings of live relationship therapy with real couples. Super interesting to listen to. Esther\u2019s unconventional analysis provides many insights.<\/p>\n<\/div>

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Stop suffering!<\/h2>\n<\/div>

I have learned a lot from Tantra. Not the ‘sex tantra’ you sometimes hear about, but the ‘life lessons tantra’ from the\u00a0Embodied Awakening Academy<\/a>, where I have done a few retreats and e-courses. They also emphasize being in the now.\u00a0Pain is just pain. Suffering happens when you resist the pain or are too attached to pleasure. Basically, if you don\u2019t accept the present moment and whatever is there, you will suffer. Trying to change or resist the \u2018now\u2019 is a fight you\u2019ll never win. It sounds very logical. Putting it into practice is more challenging…<\/p>\n<\/div>

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Life lessons from tantra<\/h2>\n<\/div>

\u201cWe have a greater incentive for change when we experience more pain\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

I have written before about\u00a0the life lessons I learned from tantra.<\/a>\u00a0Practice makes perfect, so you have to keep repeating until this new way of being becomes natural.\u00a0That’s why I refresh my knowledge and inspiration with an\u00a0e-course<\/a> every now and then. Interested? You can try the\u00a0free Masterclass<\/a>, or I can offer you a\u00a020% discount on the ecourses<\/a>, with code ESTHER20.<\/p>\n<\/div>

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Surf the waves of your creativity<\/h2>\n<\/div>

Nothing gives me more energy than to create new things, especially books. I am currently reading Elizabeth Gilbert’s book\u00a0\u2018Big Magic\u2019<\/a>\u00a0on the phenomenon of creativity and I realized again that I am a creative. I surf on the waves of creativity. My entire life and everything I do is creative: finding solutions to challenges, turning anything into a business, living off-grid, writing books, making complex subjects accessible for others, dancing, painting, cooking, etc. Trying to force myself into a grid, into a structure, into an itinerary, just doesn\u2019t work: my creative juices dry up and I start to feel more and more unhappy. So my New Years’ resolutions are to respect this even more: when there are waves, I will happily surf. When there are no waves, I will not even try, to avoid getting frustrated.<\/p>\n<\/div>

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My moment of 2020<\/h2>\n<\/div>
At the end of every year, I am asked to describe my most remarkable, special moment for the \u2018my moment\u2019 platform. In the past years I mainly wrote about disappointments: a car crash and whiplash, feeling uprooted by being kicked out of houses, systems and countries, and broken relationships. I always tried to turn those moments into a story with lessons learned and a positive twist.<\/div>\n
This year, to my surprise, the story that came up was a happy one. It feels like a balm for all the pain and disappointment I see around me.<\/div>\n
My moment of 2020<\/a>\u00a0makes me happy, over and over again. And I think it will also make you happy in the coming years…<\/div>\n<\/div>
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Modern monk<\/h2>\n<\/div>

This monk has a very special way of singing the ‘Heart Sutra’ …<\/p>\n<\/div>